Why Finding Your Why isn't Enough.
Issue 134- by Jason Payne C.M.P.C.
Why "Find Your Why" Isn't Enough
For the last decade, "find your why" has been a widely forwarded piece of advice in coaching and leadership development. You've heard it in clinics, on podcasts, from the assistant who read the book on a plane. It's on a sticky note on somebody's office wall right now. It is held as the northstar of leading from a place of meaning.
It's good advice. It's also not enough.
Here's the problem. When a coach tells me they've lost their edge, it is seldom related to their why. They generally have a pretty clear idea why they coach. They can tell you. They'll even get emotional about it. Their why is usually some version of the same thing: they want to shape young people, they love the game, they believe sport teaches what a classroom can't. The why is intact.
What's missing is everything else.
A coach with a clear why but no clarity about who they are trying to help will lack direction like a ship without a rudder, and feel scattered by February. A coach with a clear why and no honest sense of who they are will coach like someone else and feel like a fraud by the playoffs.
A coach with a clear why and no understanding of how to sustain their energy or emotions will still burn out, maybe faster than the one who never had a why at all, because passion without a container burns hot and ends ugly.
Why is one thing. But it's not the only thing.
I've come to think of the work this way: a coach's career is like a building. It gets built over seasons. It has walls, your program, your relationships, your reputation. It has a roofline, the career you're shaping. And like any structure, it stands or falls on the four cornerstones set first, in the foundation, load-bearing from the moment the first block goes on top of them. Here are the four I see as pivotal to any sustatined excellence as a coach:
Identity. Who am I? Not my résumé. Who am I when nobody's watching the film? What do I stand for that I won't trade for a win?
Purpose. Why do I coach? The question the Sinek era has been obsessed with. The inner motor. The answer that has to still be true at 3 a.m. after a bad loss. It also needs to go deeper than the first thing that comes to mind.
Impact. Who am I trying to help? This one gets conflated with purpose all the time, and that's a mistake. Purpose is the inner motor. Impact is the outer direction. Purpose asks why; Impact asks for whom. A coach who can't answer for whom is a coach whose decisions drift by the week.
Sustainability. What does it look like when I'm at my best? Not "how do I avoid burnout?" The best version, when you're coaching in a way you could continue for twenty more years and still be recognizable to myself?
Four corners. Four questions. None of them is optional if the building is going to stand when the storm hits, and the storms always come. Losing seasons. A parent who won't stop emailing. An athletic director with a spreadsheet. A family situation that won't let you be fully present in the gym. The storms aren't what decide whether your career stands. Your cornerstones do.
Here's what I notice about the coaches whose careers keep getting better. They don't have a clearer why than everybody else. They have a clear picture of who they are period. All four stones are set true. When one shifts, and one always eventually shifts, they notice early, because the wall above it starts to lean.
So the next time someone suggests you "find your why" as if that's the whole answer, explore the why. Find yours. Then keep working.
Your why is one cornerstone. It's not the building.
Build something lasting.
🎧 The Ultimate List of Coaching Podcasts
It's back!
For years, I kept a list of my favourite coaching podcasts. Somewhere along the line, I stopped updating it. But I took some time and added to it. Over 160 hours of top-notch professional development for free.
One of the simplest ways to sharpen your thinking, expand your perspective, and stay connected to the best ideas in leadership and performance is through podcasts. They give you access to world-class coaches, sports scientists, and leadership minds, often during the time you were already going to spend driving, walking, or working out.
Over the years, podcasts have become part of my own development rhythm. Some challenge my assumptions. Some give practical tools I can use the next day. And some simply remind me that the best coaches are lifelong learners.
That’s why I’ve put together The Ultimate List of Coaching Podcasts. It's a curated collection designed to help you:
✅ Build stronger culture
✅ Improve how you teach and communicate
✅ Deepen your mental performance toolbox
✅ Stay current with modern player development
✅ Grow your leadership from the inside out
Whether you’re a veteran coach or just getting started, there is something in here that will stretch your thinking.
👉 Dive into the list and pick one new voice to learn from this week.
Because the best coaches don't stay static…
They keep evolving.
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Thanks for reading, and have a great week.